sex & relationships

The danger of revenge pornography

KettleMag, sex and relationships, Rebecca Marrow, revenge porn
Written by Rebecca Marrow

It has recently been discovered that a website named Anon IB, which stands for Anonymous Image Board, has been used by people to share naked or indecent images of women in the Hull and East Riding area of Yorkshire in Britain.

Increasingly common

As someone from this area, the idea of revenge porn has never seemed more localised or, for that matter, disgusting. For me, entering the site means I am confronted by pictures of girls I recognise from Facebook, used to go to school with or have met briefly through a friend of a friend.

I have been aware of revenge porn for a long time, however having it linked to me and the town I grew up in so directly has made it feel less like a distant concept and a lot closer to home. But the thing it has made me aware about the most, even more so than how common this abhorrent behaviour is becoming, is the double standard between the person in the photo and the person who has leaked the photo online.

During the time at which this website started to garner interest, my Facebook exploded with status’ that named the girls who had taken the photos but made no attempt to condemn those who had shared them on a website that can be accessed by anyone. 

Slut shaming

I saw posts from guys slut shaming girls that they would have otherwise treated with decency, but because these girls were now on this website, it was as if they were no longer human – and so were no longer worthy of this respect.

But, worse than that, I saw girls turn on one another and use these photos as ammunition. They were branding each other ‘slags’ and ‘whores’ when really what they should have been doing is rallying together and using one another for support at a time when they all needed it.

This kind of thinking process is not only representative of the huge double standard surrounding things like nude photos, but is also incredibly damaging. Allowing people to grow up in a community where, if somebody breaches their trust in such a spiteful way, they are the one that pays the price, does nothing but perpetuate the idea that it is okay to turn a person’s sexuality against them – and if it happens then, sorry, but it’s their fault and they should be ashamed of themselves.